Have you ever been clam shammed when hitting on a stud?
Or do you know a hasbian who succumbed to the golden penis? What do
these terms mean? The answers are here in The Great Big Lesbian
Dictionary, the oracle of lesbian lingo.
A lesbian who is neither butch nor femme, but may appear as
both. A gender fluid butterfly. Might also go by: gender fluid,
A young, newbie lesbian - often accompanied by drama.
A person of the opposite sex who marries or dates a queer who is
in the closet in order to hide their homosexuality.
A girl who will only engage in lesbian activities when under the
influence. Often seen in television shows and often happens between
A straight girl who wants to indulge her lesbian fantasies.
(Occasionally, a lesbian who wants to indulge her hetero
A girl or guy who likes both sexes. Might also go by: Hovis
(Best of Both).
A multitude of meanings - a boyish lesbian/a soft butch/an
actual boy who associates with queer friends.
Someone who is submissive in bed.
A derogatory term for a straight person.
A really butch woman.
The most masculine of all butch lesbians.
A lesbian with masculine appearance. Can be identified by their
short hair, shirts (w/ popped collar) and their "gentlemanly"
An "in-betweeny" lesbian. Neither identifies as butch or femme,
usually in between. A lesbian who wears chapstick, not lipstick.
Might also go by: Stem.
An annoying experience to have - the lesbian example of cock
Queers who are not yet "out" are said to be "in the closet",
To exit the closet and reveal your sexuality.
A super masculine lesbian often associated with trucks/heavy
A women who dresses to look like a man, often for performance.
Think Ivan from The L Word.
Another word for lesbian - sometimes derogatory when used by
straight people but reclaimed by the international Dyke March
lesbian visibility movement.
A feminine lesbian. Identifying traits are often painted nails,
make-up and "girly" clothes.
The phenomenon of sleeping with several (if not all) of the
people in your friend circle. I.e. you've slept with your best
friends ex, her ex-girlfriend and her current girlfriend. Often
resulting in drama.
A female-to-male transsexual. May or may not have previously
identified as a lesbian.
A habitat where the majority of people are queer - can be a
club/pub/café, shops, a town/city e.g. Brighton. Often identified
by rainbow flags adoring the area.
Gay + Radar. The intuitive ability to recognise if another
person is gay or not.
The limitless fluidity of gender. Feeling like you're both male
and female, or indeed, neither. Might also go by: androgynous.
Neanderthals who believe that they can cure a girl of her
lesbianism with their golden penis.
A lesbian who has never had sexual relations with a man - rare,
but it happens. (Controversial: implies a lesbian heirarchy of
purity that is not borne out it actual life.)
A long-term lesbian who returns to Dicksville after being in
Lesbo-Land for some time (often derogatory).
A woman who is sexually and emotionally attracted to other
The way in which the queer community accepts and includes
A really, really, really feminine lesbian.
The lesbian equivalent of the "Uncle Sam" WW1 recruitment
poster. They want you in their circle, and they've got your
Someone who has only slept with one person in their life.
Harmless but slightly creepy straight guy who thinks he is a
lesbian. Often misunderstood.
A woman who maintains her heterosexual marriage while
recognising that she is actually gay. (MARried But LEsbian.)
Male-to-female transsexual. Better known as trans woman. Or just
woman. Trans women can be lesbians too.
They wear business suits, they have a lot of money and they make
things happen. Think Bette from The L Word. Always intimidating,
but very sexy.
When someone announces against your will that you are queer,
they have outed you.
When a lesbian wears a strap-on under their clothes to give the
impression that there is "something else" there. Socks can also be
The word used to refer to your significant other, may replace
"girlfriend" as the relationship becomes more serious.
A lesbian who only likes to receive during sex, she never
An underage lesbian.
Being proud to be gay! Or, Gay Pride events, celebrations and
parties! (Coined in the late 60s to challenge the notion that the
natural response of queers to our sexuality should be shame.)
The once derogatory term to include all LGBTQQI people.
Reclaimed in the 90s, both on the street and in academia.
Saturday Night Lesbian
A girl who is only gay at the weekends.
A fake lesbian. Someone who says they're a lesbian, but only
seems to have sex with men.
What men think lesbians do in bed, what lesbians know we don't
do in bed.
The soft butch is like a Crème Egg; they appear to have a hard
exterior but are soft on the inside.
Dress like sportswomen and often play sport. Think, Dana from
The L Word.
A lesbian floating between the brackets of "stud" and "femme".
Might also go by: chapstick lesbian.
A lesbian who doesn't like to be touched in a sexual way, always
preferring to give than receive. Often found with a "pillow
A dominant lesbian, usually butch. (Also: black lesbian slang
Someone that is dominant in bed.
A person who identifies as and desires to be the opposite
A girl who will try anything once.
Often used in lesbian jokes, a U-Haul lesbian moves in with you
pretty quickly. (From the American removals company.)
A code word for lesbian.
Non-kinky, non-risqué sex. Plain and simple intercourse.
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