“Is wearing pink — and I mean, really wearing it — a radial defiance of the stereotypes set out for AFAB people?”
BY MARY HITCHMAN, IMAGE VIA INSTAGRAM @LAZYOAF
Common to the experience of many lesbian and bisexual women is the rejection of mainstream femininity. I was about 11 when I decided I hated — hated — pink. Growing up in a Catholic household, without the words to describe how I was different to my friends, I made the difference visual. I shunned talk of princesses and fairies and all things “girly”. I listened to My Chemical Romance, wore leather cuffs on my wrists, and let my dark hair fall loosely to my waist. I begged my parents to let me paint my bedroom black (thankfully, they never relented) and replaced my floral sandals with combat boots. If I looked different, I reasoned, then perhaps someone would let me know why I felt different, too.
Pink is pushed on AFAB people before they know what to do with it. Combined with the mounting pressure on young girls to look pretty, pink represents a certain type of femininity that feels exclusionary and limiting, feeding into cis-het stereotypes of what it means to be a woman. Until now.
Pink is already associated with the LGBTQI+ community as a result of ACTUP’s iconic triangle, but it seems that pink is now more regularly employed as a signifier of feminine queerness. The recently-published collected works of Audre Lorde, who described herself as ‘Black, lesbian, feminist, warrior, poet’, is a bright and deliberate shade of bubblegum. Clothing brands like Shrimps and Lazy Oaf have seized the dainty stereotype of the heterosexual pink-clad woman and replaced her outfits with kitsch, exaggerated looks.
An oversized hot-pink cardigan emblazoned with red hearts, candyfloss-coloured coats paired with impossibly ladylike beaded bags, layering and colour-clashing, pastel pink hair pinned back with diamanté clips reading “GIRLS” and “SEX”. The result is impossible to ignore — the wearers are not princesses, but queens.
The relationship between clothing and queerness is encapsulated by Queer Looks, an exhibition of outfits worn by LGBTQI+ people, in Brighton Museum (it is on until December 2019, and I thoroughly recommend a visit). An ensemble given to the museum by Ellie, a lesbian in her twenties, stood out to me: towering pink heels emerged from a floral fuchsia dress, and the pastel pink cropped jacket was anything but prim. A closer look at her picture, displayed next to her outfit, confirmed that her hair was pink too. The result was a riotous celebration of femininity, of visible queerness. I was in awe of her confidence.
Is wearing pink — and I mean, really wearing it — a radial defiance of the stereotypes set out for AFAB people? An opportunity for lesbians and bisexual women to embrace and honour femininity? A new signifier of queerness now that pixie cuts and flannel shirts have infiltrated the mainstream? I’m not sure. All I know is that we have been offered an antidote to innocent girlishness, and by reclaiming pink we can subvert a narrative that once sought to stop us living our truth.
After all, this was never just about clothes.
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