The singer-songwriter opens up about her dreamy new single, Thinking About Her
BY DIVA STAFF
Ellie Grace’s Thinking About Her is a slice of shimmering pop perfection. And not only is it super summery, it’s super queer too. We caught up with the London-based artist to find out more about the real life love story behind the song.
DIVA: Thinking About Her is gorgeous. What was the inspiration behind it?
ELLIE GRACE: I feel like it’s so easy to write songs about when love goes wrong and when you’re hurt and angry, and it often feels so difficult to put the beautiful moments into words without it seeming cliche. With this song, I wanted to capture those exciting, early days of a relationship in a way that sounds how I felt when I was falling for my partner.
That’s so sweet. How did you and your fiancée meet?
It’s so crazy calling her my fiancée now, but we actually met at London Pride! I went into this grotty pub in Soho literally to use the bathroom, and there she was sitting by the window, acting like a complete idiot with her friends… I kind of gravitated towards them and the rest is history.
What does she think of the song?
She really loves the song. She loves getting to show off to everyone that it’s about her, but it’s also the kind of music she vibes to, so that’s really cool. Most of her family cried when they heard it.
How would she describe you in five words?
Creative, excitable, fearless, honest and she’d probably throw in something like “beautiful” because she’s the sweetest.
How would you describe her in five words?
Pure-hearted, hilarious, passionate, adventurous, divine.
What was your coming out journey like?
I’d say I had a pretty easy ride. I was living my life in London for the few years leading up to it, and never felt the need to actively come out to people. All my friends there just knew me for who I was and it was never a big deal. Then I spent a summer at home and realised that, actually, the people closest to me had no idea. I started dropping hints and talking more openly about what I was up to, but I think it was kind of brushed under the carpet. Then I met Monique, so I had to make an official statement. Most people weren’t overly surprised and didn’t really care either way. I had one close family member have a bit of a difficult time accepting it and that was rough for a short while, but then that person fell in love with Monique too and then understood that nothing had actually changed. I feel really lucky that I had it so easy because I know most people don’t.
What are your thoughts on LGBTQI artists in the music industry?
This is going to sound so bias, but I genuinely think LGBTQI+ artists have such an amazing sound. There just seems to be something so cool about their work and so much confidence in what they say. I can’t get enough of artists like Fletcher, King Princess, Girl In Red, Lauren Sanderson, Hayley Kiyoko, L Devine, Halsey… pretty much all the staples, but there are so many more. I say my taste in music is “gay girl music”. It can be so chaotic and sensual at the same time, I love it.
How important do you think it is to have music that represents queer experiences?
It’s incredibly important to have queer representation in every media form because it’s already opening up people’s hearts and minds to the normality of queer relationships. Music in particular is so special because song writing allows us to paint our experiences in an almost mystical way that taps into people’s emotions that much deeper. Also, it’s essential for young LGBTQI+ people to have their safe space where they feel understood, loved and welcome, and sharing the experience of music gives us all that.
When did you realise you wanted to be a singer?
Probably around about when I learned to talk! Honestly, I’ve always sung. I started writing songs when I was nine years old. I’ve always had a LOT of feelings, so writing felt like a natural way for me to process things. It’s always been my greatest joy, and then I learned how it felt to share that with the world and I didn’t look back.
What’s your favourite thing about your job?
My favourite thing about being a songwriter is when I release my work and it genuinely becomes someone else’s. Like, when people tell me how much they can relate to a particular song, and at that point, in their head, it’s theirs and it’s about them. That’s so magical, like we’re sharing these different lives through one body of work.
What’s the biggest challenge?
The pressure that comes with social media. I don’t even mean the pressure to look a certain way or compete with other people, just the pressure to show up and consistently live your life digitally, or risk losing your audience. That feels exhausting.
How have you managed to stay creative during the pandemic?
That’s not been easy. I’ve had surges of not being able to stop writing, then I’ve gone a month without touching the guitar. I’ve just had to be kind to myself and have a bit of patience. I actually wrote an entire LGBTQI fiction novel during the first lockdown! That was super fun. I was at a point where I’d lost a bit of creative flair for songwriting so I tried something new and it’s one of my favourite things I’ve done!
Is there anything else you’d like to tell DIVA readers?
Firstly, keep loving yourselves and being safe. Secondly, if you were kind enough to listen to my latest single, Thinking About Her, I’d love for you to reach out and tell me your thoughts! And finally, watch this space, I have more music coming very soon.
You can listen to Thinking About Her here
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